There is a mistaken notion that trauma is primarily about memory—the story of what has happened…It’s a too-simplistic view in my opinion. Your whole mind, brain and sense of self is changed in response to trauma.

In the long term the largest problem of being traumatized is that it’s hard to feel that anything that’s going on around you really matters. It is difficult to love and take care of people and get involved in pleasure and engagements because your brain has been re-organized to deal with danger.

It is only partly an issue of consciousness. Much has to do with unconscious parts of the brain that keep interpreting the world as being dangerous and frightening and feeling helpless. You know you shouldn’t feel that way, but you do, and that makes you feel defective and ashamed.

Bessel Van der Kolk (via neurodiversitysci)

On the Subject of Noncon Fanworks: Thoughts of a Reader, Writer, Survivor – Anarfea

rhodanum:

meeedeee:

For those who want context surrounding the debate whether women should be allowed to continue reading or writing non-con erotica. Additional context is also provided regarding fandom harassment of abuse survivors who write or read non-con fiction. 

An excellently written piece, if rather hard to swallow for the crowd which believes fannish expression that includes dark kinks / sexual fantasies should be constantly policed. 

However, it should be noted that the expression ‘debate if women should be allowed to continue writing non-con erotica’ makes my hair stand on end and typifies what I can’t abide in this entire thing. I didn’t come into fandom to be allowed or disallowed to write something or other. I came into fandom do straight up do so, there was no concept in my mind of ever giving someone the power of disallowing me to write the thing. Fandom was never about control for me, it was about solace, about joy, about pleasure, about deconnecting temporarily from the drudgery of a difficult and often unpleasant life.

I already live my life, as a woman, under a constant stream of being told what I’m not ‘allowed’ to do. I’m not allowed to be too harsh, too sharp, too abrasive. I’m not allowed to say I’m childfree and mean it. I’m not allowed to get a buzzcut (I’ve straight-up had hair-dressers who refused me!) I’m not allowed to continue being interested in video-games at nearly thirty, whereas with my brother it’s ‘eh, boys mature much more slowly.’ I’m not allowed to criticize street-harassers and gropers without being insulted for it. 

And now it’s ‘I’m not allowed to explore my darker fantasies in the safe, secure medium of writing, without potentially becoming a target for Purity Culture Wank.’ Fandom was my refuge from all the ‘not allowed’ nonsense and I’ll be damned if I ever let it become filled with it! 

On the Subject of Noncon Fanworks: Thoughts of a Reader, Writer, Survivor – Anarfea

plastic-pipes:

knitmeapony:

black-brat:

notoriousadd:

rabbits only flop over like that if they feel completely safe btw

to elaborate: bunnies are prey animals and almost never have their guard down– even when they’re resting they’ll usually have their back legs in a position that allows them to quickly run away. if they’re jumping around it means they’re extremely happy!! and if they flop down w/o a care that means they feel very very comfortable and safe to the point of not having to worry about their surroundings. ^__^

This is just the happiest video IMO. 

“PLAY! FUN!  Happy!  Play?”  *looks at dog*  “No, no play?  Naps?  Okay.  Naps.”  *flop*

@critter-of-habit

typicalacademic:

nightpool:

typicalacademic:

nightpool:

typicalacademic:

Hi everybody, quick request: I need a complete ontology of gender for tomorrow to explain things to my therapist. Let me know what the consensus is.

gender is like a cup

explain

holds qualia

#has 2 dimensions #the amount of liquid in the cup and which liquid is in the cup #where which liquid is in the cup isn’t actually a dimension its another property with an unenumberable number of dimensions #anyway

ah, this must be the gender fluid I’ve heard so much about

Midorima’s a hopeless romantic. Takao finds it hilarious because the guy always seems so off-putting, but really he’s a huge softy. The truth is, they both totally are. Oh, and what if Midorima made Takao question his sexuality? He’s a pretty popular guy because of how friendly he is, so I’m sure he’s usually been all over the ladies business. Suddenly he realizes he’s spending too much time with this big, weird guy who works to do “everything humanly possible” and– ahhhh.

nilesmu:

leona-dracontis:

I LOVE HOPELESS ROMANTIC MIDORIMA SO MUCH, YOU HAVE NO IDEA.

I love everything about this headcanon. Well, I know that some people think Takao would be more open about his sexuality and interest towards Midorima, but I think the other way around makes more sense. Because Midorima doesn’t really care about what other people might think or say, but Takao is more of a careful guy when it comes to that in my opinion, and he is a people-person, so I believe he may hide his true feelings about Midorima when the time comes. Despite his “tsundere” nature, Midorima is bold, and more obvious in ways than Takao has ever been before. So I’ve always thought that it would make sense if Midorima would be the first one falling for Takao, and Takao realizing that he has feelings for Midorima after a while.

I mean, let’s remember that time in the audio drama cd where Midorima was telling him to come closer to test out their compatibility, and he didn’t mind it one bit being so close to Takao, while Takao basically “freaked out” about it, saying it was “gross”:

M: You don’t understand. Come here.

T: Huh?

M: Shut up and come here.

T: Eh? Uh, like this? [takes a step]

M: Closer!

T: [grumbling] This is gross, man! [takes another step]

Umm okay that got long, but yeah, I really love this headcanon.

Midorima’s the kind of guy who does something and really just doesn’t care, I’ve always seen it. Lucky items are weird? Oh well, at least they meet their intended purpose. I see him as someone with a very specific general daily routine. It could quite possibly fall under OCD. Suddenly there’s this guy who kind of starts slowly weedling his way into his life. Popular, playful, good with people where he himself just doesn’t care to make the effort in that department. I’m almost 100% certain he one, didn’t understand why he was being – what he felt to be – followed around, and two, thought the guy was utterly ridiculous and tried to block him out as fast as possible. True to Cancer nature, he has some very, very high walls.

What I headcanon though is that Takao didn’t initiate their contact to be nice. He pushed close to be noticed, and because he knew it led to, at some point (often) Midorima getting absolutely livid for reasons he thought were pretty funny. He was a funny guy to him. He didn’t expect playful spite and his desire to be acknowledged after being defeated in middle school (which honestly I feel he probably held that grudge pretty close to his heart at first) to morph into friendship.

Midorima does stuff like that and utterly confuses him and – yeah he thinks it’s completely gross. Hell, he probably thinks he’s disgusting the first time he lets himself think about that guy, who by most people’s definitions is kind of a total freak, in a sexual way. Of course, walls built high, Midorima will literally bide his time until he knows for certain that Takao won’t turn him down. He’s the kind of person who would rather wait forever than be rejected.

MAN I MADE IT LONGER, I’M SO SORRY. I GOT EXCITED AND HAD TOO MUCH TO SHOVE IN AN ASK.

I 100 percent agree with you on your recent tags about Midorima and Takao, I really hope you could talk about it a bit more? since its unbelievable Takaos happy go lucky all the time and Midorima is 100% Tsun and its a common defense mechanism especially in Takaos case, thanks so much for sharing your opinions! they are great :)

leona-dracontis:

Oh thank you so much!

In my opinion, Takao sometimes uses teasing and laughing as a sort of a defense mechanism. The manga, being a shonen jump series and all, following some stereotypes; shows a rather more typical approach to the characters so they usually use the same “characteristics” and act the same most of the time in the manga. Like, Midorima is often shown as this “horoscope freak and usually grumpy tsundere” and Takao is shown as this “teasing and bubbly, happy-go-lucky” character. So I am forever grateful for all these extra stuff, because you get to see the depth of the characters. And that’s why the more I read about Midorima and Takao’s interactions, the more I see that Takao is often the one who barely shows his true feelings. He either uses humor and teasing, or he just freaks out and stutters. Midorima is much bolder about that in my opinion, so that’s why I’ve always found it easier to write Midorima in fics, compared to Takao. 

Also from what I’ve gathered in these recent 3ds game translations, Midorima can be highly cooperative and caring. So I can’t just put him in a typical “tsundere” category, because he openly shows his caring side at times. I mean, compared to Takao, who do you think shows his true intentions and feelings more? I would definitely say Midorima. He is open, direct, somewhat bold; even when he is in denial, because you can understand when he is in denial and when he’s not. But with Takao, it’s not always completely crystal clear. He teases Midorima, but does he always do that because he likes it? I don’t believe it, because he also knows his boundaries and knows when not to push it too far, he knows when to stop. So he is aware of things happening around him, and for him to take a step back when necessary shows that he truly cares. That’s why I can’t be sure of his actions most of the time. But it’s obvious that he can get serious and can read Midorima so well, that’s a side of Takao I truly love. 

Compared to Midorima, who usually hides his caring side more and covers it with boldness and harsh attitude; Takao hides his serious side more and covers it with teasing and humor. And that’s another thing I love about them, because it shows that they are not one dimensional characters, and there is much more to them than just being stereotypes.