i never want tumblr to end. this website is like the internet equivalent of a huge mall where you can run around and do whatever you want and there are no laws
no laws? the fuck? i wanna be on the website you’re on. my experience of tumblr is that if you break even a minor law you get executed publicly
You don’t even have to break a law to be publicly executed. All you have to really do is like something someone else sees as “problematic” to trigger them into taking it upon themselves to act as Officer, Judge, Jury, and Executioner.
Just remember, you are not immortal, but you are tougher than you think, and remember that walking through the fires of hell makes the fires of the earth laughable by comparison.
Your skin is scorched, but your nerves are dull and your conscience is clear.
forgotten highlight of 2017: season 4 of sherlock was literally so bad that the fans that somehow still existed were completely convinced it was intentionally bad and there was gonna be a secret fourth episode that fixed everything
True highlight of 2017: Despite being on tumblr daily I was completely unaware of that there even was a season 4 of Sherlock.
why are there all these posts n articles n stuff that are like “girls can have short hair!” “girls can wear suits!” but all the women shown are still always only feminine, and whats actually being said is “girls can have short hair and still be feminine!” and “girls can wear suits and still be attractive to men!” like whenever women want to do something men (and sometimes other women too, but men are awful at this) have to find a way to make it Still Okay, Still Acceptable to them, instead of just letting women be! women dont need to fit any standards of femininity or beauty to do something, and they certainly don’t need mens approval
and its really gross considering these articles are usually about styles/behaviors associated with wlw, like they’re basically saying “doing this is okay, as long as youre straight!”
yeah. if we’re going to say this is great (and it is)
then we also need to honestly promote this as well
Nah. You’re missing a whole piece of the trans experience, my friend.
There’s something called “gender euphoria” – it’s the exact opposite of gender dysphoria, and it can be a motivator for being trans! It’s not that you’re uncomfortable being cis. It’s that you’re more comfortable being trans. No discomfort involved – just greener grass on the other side of the fence.
For dysphoric folks I think that can get very hard to conceptualize, but…being trans isn’t a death sentence? Even if you are dysphoric, chances are you have experienced gender euphoria before – it’s the feeling when you see yourself wearing a binder for the first time, or when you wear a skirt for the first time, or the first time someone gets tongue-tied about whether to call you “sir” or “miss”.
It’s the first time you think “oh. So this is what it’s supposed to be like.” And you just can’t stop smiling for the rest of the day. It’s the feeling that anons are talking about when they submit good vibes.
The primary trans narrative is driven by gender dysphoria, which means they’re seeking something that feels less wrong. But gender euphoria – which is present in all of us, but is stronger and sometimes even dominant for some – is seeking something that feels more right. And both of those narratives are valid and deserving of support, and neither one of them cancels the other experience out.
men, if you absolutely MUST hit on strangers, here is how to be a gentleman instead of a creep:
never ask for her number. give her yours.
don’t try to get her to say she’ll call you. just say “i’d like it” or “i hope you will.”
NO TOUCHING. a handshake on parting if you’re really getting along, maybe. don’t linger.
brief, friendly eye contact to show you’re being forthright: good. staring into her soul like you think you’re a harlequin romance hero: fucking terrifying. you look like you’re working out a wine pairing for her liver.
give her compliments that are about her as a person, not her anatomy, and keep it g-rated. imagine there are kindergarteners watching. “you have a wonderful smile” = good. “daaaamn, looking fine” = bad. “nice tits” = *buzzer noise* *trap door opens* *machine noises and screams*
if she declines your number, you can set it down on a nearby surface if you think the refusal is pro forma, but don’t ever try to push it into her hand.
you may attempt to converse with her before offering your number. don’t be a phony, just make small talk.
don’t pretend you’re not hitting on her.
PERSONAL BUBBLE PERSONAL BUBBLE
if she doesn’t engage with your small talk, or gives off uncertain body language, or you can’t read her, back off. bring it to a polite close and go away, whether you leave your number or not.
if she does engage, be aware that she may simply be enjoying the social interaction without being sexually or romantically interested in you, and be okay with that. don’t pretend you’re okay with it. be okay with it.
you might make a friend instead of getting a date. do you realize how cool that is? it is very cool. friends are important. even hot friends who don’t want to date you are better than not making friends. accept this. embrace it. join the human race. rejoice.
even if everything goes pefectly, and she’s super duper into you, do NOT try to take her somewhere more private. it’s not that she doesn’t know her own mind, it’s that you don’t know her well enough to be sure everything’s copacetic.
and finally, don’t assume you’re always safe and women can’t hurt you. being an asshole is not a gendered trait. give yourself an out as well.
don’t do any of this if you’re in a position with leverage over her, whether you’re her coworker (you don’t have to be her superior to have leverage!), her dad’s golfing buddy, in a job that gives you more social clout (say, it’s a base town, you’re military and she’s a townie), or just her ride home. do not hit on women you have power over.
no, not even in that situation you’re thinking of. no exceptions.
no, not even if you’re head over heels in love and think she’s the One. get to know her as a person, and you might grow closer over time. but if you hit on her from a position of leverage, you are no gentleman.
just moving along like everyone else 