This was in my psychology book. I thought it might be useful to those who can’t think if gender-neutral terms.
Finally I see something going against the implied language that suggests the male gender is the default gender, illustrated by “man-made, mankind” etc,
i keep coming across fanfics where the characters try so very hard to hide their feelings for fear of rejection, they have to be tricked into admitting they care. of course, because it’s fiction, some convoluted plot forces them to confess, and they live happily ever after. but we all know, in the real world, telling someone you have Feelings for them is just as likely to make them bolt. these authors are writing from experience.
i understand that fear. i do. i lost count of how many guys sheepishly faded into the woodwork upon being told i liked them and wanted to date for realsies, not just hook up occasionally. it hurt. it made me feel like i wasn’t good enough, like they were ashamed to be seen with me, like i was unlovable.
but darlings, you deserve someone you can be honest with.
ask for what you want. if you don’t give them the chance to say no, there’s no chance anyone will say yes.
If you’re someone who wants to make original stuff for people to see, DO IT!!!
Your worth as an artist is not determined by the number of Tumblr notes you get. Followers are NOT a currency. Don’t worry about instant gratification, because you’re creating something only you can own for the rest of your life! It will take you longer to build up an audience around something that doesn’t have a pre-loaded fanbase. In fact it’ll probably take longer than you think, but you’ll have a much more satisfying artistic career.
A NYC grad student working on food stamps for her thesis has released a free cookbook for those living on $4/day.
SIG NAL BOO OO OO OOOST
hello
oooooh this is so nice!
I believe it’s important to eat well, even when you’re strapped for cash. It’s good for your health and energy! This cookbook is full of delicious and healthy recipes, the ingredients of which are fairly inexpensive.
I ACKNOWLEDGE THIS WOMAN AS A FELLOW WARRIOR AND A FANTASTIC HUMAN BEING.
Boost so hard. Feeding yourself well is a challenge when you”ve got little income
I HAVE BEEN USING THIS COOKBOOK FOR MONTHS AND IT’S AMAZING 100/10 RECOMMENDING EVERYWHERE
(just to give you an idea, my food budget is 30 euro/week at most [about $38] and I have to maintain a healthy diet due to weird medication side-effects and yeah, basically this book is a lifesaver if you’re broke but need to watch what you’re eating)
Reblog to save a life. Because it’s easy to find food for $4/day, but most of it tends to be garden variety junkfood
(The pdf is free, I repeat, the pdf is free)
And yeah, even if you’re not going to use 90% of the recipes, it’s always good to have spare recipe reference points. To quote a dear departed Portland television pitchman, “Free is a very good price.”
If you can afford to buy it, I urge you to do so! It’s a great cookbook with great pictures and it’s important to support the author! (If you can!) 🙂
And I think part of that process of combating loneliness involves
acknowledging that close friendships aren’t necessarily easy. It’s like
exercise; some people are naturally drawn to working out all the time,
but most of us like “having exercised” but still groan as we schlep down
to the gym.
The most successful healthy people are often not the people who love
exercise, but who have accepted that the minor unpleasantness of putting
in an hour down at the gym will make their lives infinitely better.
Friendship, at least for me and my wife, is a weird balance, because
as introverts we have a natural reluctance to going out with people.
Left to our own devices, we’d rather nest in at home every evening –
we’ve spent time working, we want to relax, going out with people and
putting out more energy seems exhausting.
Yet we do it. Because we realize that if we followed our natural
instincts all the time, we’d be unhappy in the long run. We need
friends. But we can’t just call up our friends when we need them –
that’s treating them like tools. So we gotta get our duffs off the couch
and say those precious, precious words:
“Wanna hang out?”
We need to reach out and cultivate those relationships in advance,
to schedule nights out, to go to events we’re not really thrilled about
when we start out – because, like exercise, a lot of the time it
actually turns out to be pretty awesome once we’ve started. You feel
pumped, you feel jazzed, you feel glad that you went and did it.
A lot of maintaining good friendships is getting past that inertia of
“Don’t wanna.” (The other half is knowing which nights you’re
absolutely right to spend at home alone.)
Friendships are wonderful, and empowering, but they’re not a free
natural resource for most of us. And I think a lot of people wind up
lonelier than they should because they’ve got this weird, sitcom-fed
idea that friendships just happen – Joey and Monica and Chandler just
wind up on the couch at the coffee shop by magic every night.
Whereas the truth about friendships is that those “you wind up in the
same place every night” usually only happen when you’re living in the
same place, which only really happens in college. Once you’re a grownup,
your friends scatter, and you have to chase them down – Joey’s at the
cafe every Tuesday for open mic night, and Monica lives on the other
side of town but really wants to see that show at the Capitol Theater,
and Chandler’s working lots of overtime but hey do you wanna catch a
drink when he gets off work at 8?
You have to schedule. You have to go to places with people you’re not
100% comfortable with yet. You have to decide to leave your apartment.
That all takes a certain amount of labor. And you get rewarded big in
the end – there’s nothing better about walking into a room and seeing
that smile when your buddy shows up and getting that hug and knowing
that yeah, this evening was totally worth going out for because you
stuck with these people until you had a history together.
It is often difficult to recognize the connection between early-life feelings of imprisonment, and our subsequent need for space and distance in our adult lives. This can be manifest in many different ways: non-committal relationships, career indecision, a perpetual need to live alone, social avoidance, perpetual mistrust of the world etc. For a time, these manifestations can actually serve a counter-balancing purpose, as our spirits breathe a healthy sigh of relief after years entrapped. If all you know is engulfment, it is essential that you have a taste of safety and spaciousness. But, taken too far, our escape hatches can actually become a prison of their own, one that deepens our isolation and prevents us from forming positive associations with the world. Any imbalanced reality has an imprisoning quality. Just because our early-life environment felt like a prison doesn’t mean that we can’t create a different reality-one that is rooted in healthy connectiveness.
Small tip to help some of your blind friends: do not put 10,000 emojis in the middle of a text or a post if you continue to put text after the emojis because I will tell you that I will Straight give up if I have to listen to “face with tears of joy, face with tears of joy, face with tears of joy,” 23 times just to hear the rest of your text or post.
Oh my god, that’s what screen readers say when they read out emojis?? I didn’t realize.. I will change how I write my posts now… My bad…
This is good to know. Pretend there are twenty three light bulb emojis indicating sudden understanding following this text.
So the clap hands emoji post would be extra annoying since you can’t just speed read it, damn!
YES. That is one of my least favorite emojis because it’s LONG. It also says skin tone on some, and while that’s AWESOME, if you put 30 prayer hands, I have to hear “hands clasped in celebration with medium dark skin tone” 30 times in full. And even if I use a braille display, it still writes it out in full because there’s no real way to represent them any other way yet, so until someone invents a Braille display with like 10 lines that isn’t astronomically expensive, there’s no easy way to skip over them.
Now, at least with some screen readers, punctuation is a little different and if there are multiple of the same thing it’ll say like “17 exclamation points” instead of saying them all individually, and I wish that update would be made to screen readers to speak emojis in multiples that way… That would be a good solution.
Is it okay to use emojis sparingly? I don’t ever use a million like that, the most I’d put in a row is probably two different emojis, lol. But I do feel the need to use either emojis or ASCII faces in order to get emotion across in my writing. Which is better for you, a traditional ASCII face like 🙂 or a newfangled emoji like ☺️? Can your screen reader “translate” things like 🙂 into “smiling face” or do you just hear “colon dash right parentheses”?
Oh yeah, of course! If you only use one or two in a row that’s totally fine! Don’t feel like you have to just stop using them. They are fun and lots of people like them.
As for emoji versus traditional typed out faces, it doesn’t really matter. It can’t translate most of those faces except for a general smiley face, but I know what the symbols put together mean, though this may be difficult for somebody who is not very well versed in print reading. Most blind kids get taught to recognize both though.
There’s so much good info on this post! I didn’t know any of this. Thanks for making it!!
apply for jobs you’re not qualified for! audit upper-level classes! get drunk with your TAs! see that poster advertising that lecture series? go there take notes and ask questions! thank the presenter for talking about this topic you love! if the class is full before you register, email the professor and ask if they can squeeze you in! RAISE YOUR HAND! tell the disability accomodation office to do their goddamn job! ask for help! file complaints! go to class in your pajamas and destroy the reading! you got this! you KNOW you got this! be arrogant enough to learn EVERYTHING! take your meds! punch a velociraptor in the dick! fear is useless and temporary! glory is forever! shed your skin and erupt angel wings! help out! spread your sun!
i had a really good morning! you deserve a really good morning! kill anyone who says you don’t and build a throne from their bones!
just moving along like everyone else 