from someone who runs a haunted house; there’s a lot of stuff i’ve seen + nobody really seems 2 want to talk about? so like nobody cares + this will be boring but like pls. just read it . pls. im not going to try and talk you out of any behaviors, just tell you how to maybe cut the possibility that these behaviors will cause harm.
don’t crack glowsticks + use the glow as skin paint why do ppl do that it’s toxic please stop doing that
im team “dress as u wish” but i also suggest sewing a pocket into your costume. include ur id + 20 bucks in cash + maybe your phone. make it have a zipper/velcro/button close. tbh i sew mine into my bra. this makes it a lot harder to lose important things if you have to run from the cops zombies
a good rule of thumb (always tbh) is to follow fairy rules on this night. don’t eat or drink anything offered to you unless you know the person is safe.
yes i mean eating things, trust me, don’t do it
if this is ur first time trying weed, don’t wait until you’re drunk. also give yourself at least 2 hours before you say “it’s not working”. take it slow.
please don’t do serious drugs, but if you’re gonna, write down what you took. if it goes by a street name, ask what it’s close to. write that down on your arm/somewhere safe. in case of accidental overdose, it will help emts
on that note, emts are there to help you, don’t lie to them, they’re not cops, just tell them what you/the person took + how much
know the signs and symptoms of an overdose. if your friend is exhibiting signs of an overdose, don’t sweat the possibility you might be wrong. better safe than sorry.
same goes for liquor. even if you’re underage, call somebody if you need to. know the signs of poisoning can differ from person to person; look for things like inability to speak, falling down, falling asleep while talking, or blue lips. excessive shivering is bad too.
please for the love of god make sure you and your friends check your normal medications before you mix drugs together. weed/liquor and antidepressants are known not to mix; don’t you dare do antibiotics and liquor or i’ll be Very Disappointed. if you don’t know if your daily medication has a bad interaction with something, don’t take it. and yeah, btw? some things are known to cancel the effects of birth control. so really, be careful
lots of teenagers will try drinking. i cannot legally tell you that’s a good idea. but i can maybe offer some tips from someone who has made Many Mistakes to help u Drink Responsibly
keep a tally of what u drank. disguise it so it’s not tally marks. i usually use something festive. it helps me remember to slow down bc i make it so i have to have at least one glass of water per 2 marks. if you don’t want a hangover, do 1 to 1.
also if you don’t want a hangover start drinking water now. dehydration is cumulative, so if you only drink water on the day of, your body won’t really feel it. aim for at least half a gallon a day this week. drink ¾ a gallon on the day of. i usually top that off when i come home with another ¼. it works wonders.
generally, the more sugar in the drink, the worse your stomach will feel
do not drink on an empty stomach. do not. do … not. put a fry in there, i don’t know. eat something.
do not drive drunk. just don’t. there are apps u can use to call cars now. back in my day we just had to shame-dial our parents and beg them to forgive us the next day
also just. don’t feel like you have to do or take anything from anyone. whenever i feel pressured to drink but don’t want to (and yes!! i’m an adult and i can feel that way!!) i tend to take something i don’t like (i won’t be tempted by the taste) and like… just hold it. for the whole night. nobody notices. thanks, social anxiety, for making this a problem.
my general rule of thumb is that if you can’t run in your shoes, you shouldn’t wear them.
if you notice someone ruining props or being a jerk, please stop them if it’s safe to do so. just say “hey dude, not cool.” it works?? so well???
don’t scare little kids you don’t know. idk why teens love doing this. u have no idea what that little kid has as personal needs.
if you feel unsafe, leave. it’s hard to do, but you need to. don’t go into the abandoned building, don’t go into the stranger’s house. just don’t. listen to your gut. there’s a difference between “spooked” and “this is genuinely a bad idea”.
graveyards are cool but please don’t break the tombstones that’s just rude
keep black pets inside.
have an emergency name + number somewhere secret.
don’t walk on a dark road w/out lights why do teenagers always do this yeah it feels cool and spooky but u gon be roadkill
masks really upset one of my friends but he feels uncomfortable admitting it and what we learned is that if you say “can you take a picture with me? you look so cool! where’d you get that costume?” most people will be very friendly + you’ll get to hear their voice, which helps. also u can just ask ppl to take their mask off, but fyi some will be v annoying about this
taking a picture of something proves if that something is real.
stand up for your friends. talk 2 them beforehand about problems they might have and u might have. i can’t ask ppl for things for my own anxiety, but if i know “okay, he needs me to ask the person w/a knife to leave” i am?? suddenly superpowered?
have a buddy or 3 and make sure you all go home together.
the best advice i’ve ever gotten for enjoying a party was “always leave a party while everyone is still having fun.”
When you have a child, you’re not signing up for them to be an exact copy of you, you don’t sign up for them to be straight, cisgender, a certain religion, you sign up to bring another human into the world and raise them as their own person, and the minute you make a decision to have a child, you have signed up for them not to be straight, not to be cis, not to have a certain religion. You can’t attach terms and conditions to a human being, and as a parent, your child being gay, lesbian, bisexual, pansexual, asexual, transgender, non binary and so many more identities, should not be used as an excuse to make their life hell, to remind them all the time that they’re not what you signed up for. If you do that, you are not a good parent. You can tell yourself you are, you can tell your child you are, but really you’re a monster. When you have a child, you sign up to accept, love and support them for them.
you’re also not signing up for an abled child. their disability did not steal your ‘real’ child. the fuck is wrong with people.
I have been spared this particular feeling, via the expedient of never having had any goals to speak of. The “you have to actually keep living” problem, though, is a pretty universal one, and one I’m very familiar with, thanks to the aforementioned lack of momentum thing I’ve got going on. So what you do is you get up and find a reason to act; and if pressure’s gone, and fear’s gone, and even the completionist urge isn’t there because you’ve run out of rungs on your ladder, then the next thing you do is find a rabbit and chase it. It doesn’t matter what it is. Find a scent. In the name of that fierce, bloody-mouthed joy for which there is probably a specific German word, go out and kill something.
i don’t care how cheesy it sounds, sometimes when you’re suffering you really need to stop, sit down and have a conversation with yourself. no fighting is allowed with yourself. do not frame yourself as the problem. do not let your insecurities interfere with your thought process. be careful with them.
have a conversation with yourself as if there were two of you- facing each other. you’re hurting for a reason. you’re behind for a reason. you don’t care for reasons. returning to our bodies and understanding why can drastically change our relationships with ourselves, seriously. where does it hurt? your heart, why? because of heartbreak? are you repressing tears? can you wait any longer for something to come to you? are you afraid of something? are you distancing yourself without realizing?
sometimes i needlessly hurt without thinking about why- because thinking is something you do and i don’t want to do anything. i’d rather my head go blank than think of myself, to centralize myself, to deal with myself. but those steps are so crucial to improving the relationship i have with myself. if i can find ways to understand myself, i can find the origin of the hurt. it always trails back to something.
Anyone got suggestions for creepy documentaries im in the mood
here you go
not scary scary but its unsettling
What the fuck
Im watching this immediately this looks freaky as shit thank you
I saw this documentary at Sundance when I was working the festival, and every single screening of this film had heightened security, as well as bag and pocket checks before entering the theatre.
Why? Because earlier on in the festival, one of the people from Jane O’Brien Media (the company behind the “tickle cells”) was in the audience disrupting the screening.
At other festivals people from Jane O’Brien Media were kicked out for bringing recording devices into screenings with coffee cups and for continuously attempting to sabotage festival screenings. They hijacked the Q&A at a screening in Los Angeles, where they spent the Q&A portion threatening legal action against the filmmakers.
Not only a great “the truth is stranger than fiction” doc, but an absolutely crucial film to watch in an age where digital media has the power to be used for coercion. There’s a reason why those profiled didn’t want this doc getting out.
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If you feel that you need to warn for a background ship, you can always tag “Untagged Background Relationships” and then if you want you can specify what they are in the author’s notes. Search results are more accurate, you’ve covered your bases, everyone’s happy.
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“When I was 26, I went to Indonesia and the Philippines to do research for my first book, No Logo.
I had a simple goal: to meet the workers making the clothes and
electronics that my friends and I purchased. And I did. I spent evenings
on concrete floors in squalid dorm rooms where teenage girls—sweet and
giggly—spent their scarce nonworking hours. Eight or even 10 to a room.
They told me stories about not being able to leave their machines to
pee. About bosses who hit. About not having enough money to buy dried
fish to go with their rice.
They knew they were being badly exploited—that the garments
they were making were being sold for more than they would make in a
month. One 17-year-old said to me: “We make computers, but we don’t know
how to use them.”
So one thing I found slightly jarring was that some of these
same workers wore clothing festooned with knockoff trademarks of the
very multinationals that were responsible for these conditions: Disney
characters or Nike check marks. At one point, I asked a local labor
organizer about this. Wasn’t it strange—a contradiction?
It took a very long time for him to understand the question.
When he finally did, he looked at me like I was nuts. You see, for him
and his colleagues, individual consumption wasn’t considered to be in
the realm of politics at all. Power rested not in what you did as one
person, but what you did as many people, as one part of a large,
organized, and focused movement. For him, this meant organizing workers
to go on strike for better conditions, and eventually it meant winning
the right to unionize. What you ate for lunch or happened to be wearing
was of absolutely no concern whatsoever.
This was striking to me, because it was the mirror opposite
of my culture back home in Canada. Where I came from, you expressed your
political beliefs—firstly and very often lastly—through personal
lifestyle choices. By loudly proclaiming your vegetarianism. By shopping
fair trade and local and boycotting big, evil brands.
These very different understandings of social change came up
again and again a couple of years later, once my book came out. I would
give talks about the need for international protections for the right
to unionize. About the need to change our global trading system so it
didn’t encourage a race to the bottom. And yet at the end of those
talks, the first question from the audience was: “What kind of sneakers
are OK to buy?” “What brands are ethical?” “Where do you buy your
clothes?” “What can I do, as an individual, to change the world?”
Fifteen years after I published No Logo, I still
find myself facing very similar questions. These days, I give talks
about how the same economic model that superpowered multinationals to
seek out cheap labor in Indonesia and China also supercharged global
greenhouse-gas emissions. And, invariably, the hand goes up: “Tell me
what I can do as an individual.” Or maybe “as a business owner.”
The hard truth is that the answer to the question “What can
I, as an individual, do to stop climate change?” is: nothing. You can’t
do anything. In fact, the very idea that we—as atomized individuals,
even lots of atomized individuals—could play a significant part in
stabilizing the planet’s climate system, or changing the global economy,
is objectively nuts. We can only meet this tremendous challenge
together. As part of a massive and organized global movement.
The irony is that people with relatively little power tend
to understand this far better than those with a great deal more power.
The workers I met in Indonesia and the Philippines knew all too well
that governments and corporations did not value their voice or even
their lives as individuals. And because of this, they were driven to act
not only together, but to act on a rather large political canvas. To
try to change the policies in factories that employ thousands of
workers, or in export zones that employ tens of thousands. Or the labor
laws in an entire country of millions. Their sense of individual
powerlessness pushed them to be politically ambitious, to demand
structural changes.
In contrast, here in wealthy countries, we are told how
powerful we are as individuals all the time. As consumers. Even
individual activists. And the result is that, despite our power and
privilege, we often end up acting on canvases that are unnecessarily
small—the canvas of our own lifestyle, or maybe our neighborhood or
town. Meanwhile, we abandon the structural changes—the policy and legal
work— to others.”
You end up making good stuff by making a bunch of bad stuff, which is why everybody who’s blocked, the reason they’re blocked is because they are committing the cardinal sin of assuming their job is to make something good. You’ll never make that. Your definition of good will change as you get better. It will always be something you’re not capable of. Whereas you know you can make something that sucks. You live in terror of it. So, do that. You’re also a very critical person. You’re very critical of your own work, other people’s work. So make something that sucks and then criticize it, and fix it. That is a much better way to get something done than this idea that, you know, you’re gonna use your brain, which is so special, you’re gonna make all the right choices ‘cause you’re such a great, great person.
This quote kinda reminds me of a totally unrelated tweet by Ta-Nehisi Coates I read yesterday:
The thread tying them together in my head, I guess, is this idea that you should stop worrying about being smart and do the work. Study, Write, Listen, Consider what you’ve heard and what you’ve written, and how/why you respond to it as you do. THAT’S how you get to “Good”; not by being born with the right, ephemeral, mental “trait”. Follow one small step with the next, and before you know it a journey of a thousand miles is behind you.
just moving along like everyone else 