roachpatrol:

alarajrogers:

roachpatrol:

that post i made a while back asking cis people about their experience of their gender identity is getting bounced around yet another ring of TERFS and so far my favorite comment is ‘roachpatrol is a man, right?’ based on someone’s conclusion that only a man could assume that women enjoy being women

TERFS: We are miserable being women! Being woman is pain! Everything about being a woman is bad!

Trans women: But actually we feel like there’s something wonderful about being female and we strongly feel that we are women and we love it when the world acknowledges us as women.

TERFS: You are lying! No one could ever want to be a woman! And since men are evil, and no one could possibly want to be a woman if they could be a man instead, you must be scamming us so you can infiltrate our ranks and spy on us for the patriarchy!

Trans women: Huh? That makes no sense.

TERFS: You don’t need to make sense! You’re men! Men are just born evil for no particularly good reason! Men are born to hate women and make them suffer!

Trans men: We disagree. We don’t hate women or want them to suffer and we feel that we are men.

TERFS: Oh, poor honeys, you hate being women so much you want to be men! We understand perfectly. That’s normal for being a woman!

Cis women who are not TERFS: No it’s not.

TERFS: No one asked you.

TERFS: Also, we are completely 100% pro woman! We are the only pro women people on the planet! Every woman who claims she actually likes being a woman has a false consciousness! Being a woman is pain and suffering and awfulness and the only way to solve this is to commit gendercide against men because men are the root of all evil! If you don’t hate men and you don’t hate being a woman, it’s just because you’re too stupid to understand how the patriarchy has brainwashed you into being happy with being enslaved!

The rest of feminism in general: How is a stance that says that being female makes you inherently miserable and this cannot be changed as long as men exist and so we’d basically have to wipe out half the human race for women to ever be happy a pro-woman stance?

TERFS: FALSE CONSCIOUSNESS! shut up, brainwashed slaves of patriarchy!

this is exactly what keeps happening on that other post, yes

cumaeansibyl:

an-average-sized-person:

1. Streetwise cop with 20 years on the force
2. loose cannon rookie straight out of the academy who doesn’t play by the rules

if you disagree you need to turn in your badge

this is long-suffering and exasperated captain erasure

the-real-seebs:

jellyfishdirigible:

teratocybernetics:

anaisnein:

tweedymcgee:

the-real-seebs:

I just love how tumblr views the issue. It is absolutely not cool to speculate about people’s gender, or debate it, or whatever.

Unless they can beat you in an argument. Then it’s open season and speculating and asserting that they’re lying is 100% okay.

And yeah, pretty much. I think the official-ish term is “agender”, which I’m fine with, or “apathetic-trans”, which I’m fine with, and… okay, cool, whatever?

The reason I point out people being assholes about this isn’t that I give a fuck what gender people think I am. It’s that if they’re willing to actively tell falsehoods about my gender in order to score points in an Internet argument, that tells you a lot about them. And since like half my social circle is trans, it makes a good test case for warning people about bad actors. That’s it.

And I note, some of them are clearly lying, some of them are clearly passing on gossip, some of them who knows what the fuck they’re thinking. But it doesn’t really matter, does it? It is not, in general, okay to have “wank” about someone else’s gender identity, unless you’re a right-wing politician looking to get out the angry vote, or you’re a “social justice” nutjob on tumblr who lost an argument.

I like “apathetic-trans,” but I feel like we could use better and more irreverent words for this gender condition.

(Another she/her/whatevs DFAB DGAF here, who if born a decade or two later would probably have self-identified as genderqtttthhhhbbbbb.)

fwiw I have started thinking of it as “being in the AFAB Bermuda Triangle,” which is where all the agender? nb? genderqueer? afabs who are old enough for pursuing it to have an obviously net-negative cost:benefit go for grumpiness and chill with a side of invisibility

I’ve been thinking of it as ‘gendershrug’ most of the time

it’s funny how the experience of being treated like you’re “not trans
enough” and the ensuing pressure to just stick with your assigned gender so you don’t inconvenience anyone, so you end up just shutting up and dealing with it, is more prevalent amongst AFAB people though, isn’t it? It’s almost as if there’s some kind of systematic double standard in play

I know, right?

And I can even tell you exactly why people do it to me, too, even though I’m not AFAB: It’s because I keep saying that the experiences of AFAB people, trans or otherwise, are actually relevant to understanding trans issues, and shouldn’t be completely dismissed. Every time I talk about trans issues and point out that I think trans men have actual concerns and do not benefit from every possible advantage in our society, people assert that I’m only saying that because I’m a trans man, and therefore my opinions are invalid because I’m too privileged to have opinions. 😛