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Mmm, you’d be surprised, Anon-san.  ^_^;;;;;  I don’t tend to give people nicknames, but once I develop a way to address them, it’s super hard for me to switch out, and as far as I can tell, people generally act like this.  Once you get used to calling someone something, it takes a lot of work and conscious effort to change.  Instead, what’s likely to change is the way the name is said.

What I say is not the be-all and end-all, because I am not natively Japanese and this is not my culture; no matter how much I ask and observe native Japanese, there is always going to be a gaijin filter that colors everything I see.  Additionally, even between two Japanese people, opinions on these matters will differ.  In the end, the default way of treating this is always to err on the side of politeness unless you are daring and don’t mind the risk of offending the other, or the other side asks you to switch forms of address.  That said, here’s a VERY long answer under the cut!

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