Love it when a fic author is like “so if my other fic was vanilla, this fic is 110% (complex mixture of ice cream flavors and toppings)” and you look at the tags and shake your head slowly like “oh, my sweet summer child.”
Once you discover Homestuck xeno kink there’s no going back.
When you calibrate your ‘vanilla’ to ‘hermaphroditic bug-alien tentacle-wangs’ it throws off the whole scale wrt kink in other fandoms.
sometimes you remember ‘vanilla’ actually has stricter parameters than ‘no one actually dies for real during the actual sex act itself’ and get sort of confused about what other people are doing with their friday nights
my level of fanfiction productivity ranges from “typing 20,000 words over the span of 3 days” or “opening a document and staring at it for a year without typing anything at all.” there is no middle ground.
You can ship whatever you want. No exceptions. Shipping is
Not about what is canon
Can be about what you think is hot
Can be about aesthetic
Can be about nothing in canon
Can be because you think the dynamic is interesting
Can be because of what you think would happen if two characters interacted
Can be just because you like characters
Can be wish fulfillment
Any other reason
Doesn’t matter canon sexuality, situation, etc. It’s what AUs are for.
Fandom is for fun. Get over it.
PS: People are allowed to ship multiple things for the same character. Liking one ship for a character doesn’t automatically mean they hate all the others.
Aright friendos, since some of y’all don’t seem to realize “except for” means you already missed the point lemme lay it down for you.
Now you kids seem nice, like your heart is in the right place, but you need to work on those listening skills and maybe some of that reading comprehension. Also try like the rest of us to cope with the fact that fiction isn’t reality.
Yes it can influence and impact, but it isn’t a magic override button to a person’s morals. If someone uses that media to influence someone, it isn’t the media’s fault anymore than it’s a knife’s fault it stabbed someone. Put blame where it belongs: ON THE GROSS FUCKIN PEOPLE TOUCHING THEIR UNDERAGED COUSINS.
Whether or not something is wrong in reality has no impact on whether it is allowed to be depicted and enjoyed in fiction (and no not purely in a sexual way. Things can be enjoyed non-sexually or from a narrative/hypothetical standpoint)
And how exactly does it erase it? By which I mean, how does it make Dirk stop being gay in canon? How does it stop Kanaya from being married to Rose? I know that Homestuck is very fandom driven, but whatever the fandom is doing, it doesn’t make ANYTHING in canon different. Someone deciding they like Dirk and Roxy’s dynamic, or how Kanaya and Eridan look together doesn’t suddenly make those things canon.
You don’t suddenly not have those gay characters. And if it’s about how other people perceive characters differently because of popular fanon vs what’s actually canon, then suck it the fuck up because EVERYONE in EVERY FANDOM has had to deal with that on one level or another and take solace in the fact that WHAT’S CANON IS CANON.
FANDOM is for the stuff that ISN’T CANON which is LITERALLY EVERYTHING NOT THE SOURCE MATERIAL. You are just as flawed as everyone else and people by nature aren’t concrete so it is not your place any more than anyone else’s to tell them how they enjoy media is wrong.
You are allowed to dislike it, you are allowed to be creeped out or upset by it, you are allowed to think it’s cringy, fuck, you are allowed to even complain about it or even say you don’t get it to others. But you don’t get to march up to someone’s inbox and tell them they are wrong and bad because of your likely just as flawed and uninformed opinion. Even if you put a lot of thought into it, even if you think your rightness is pure and logical, when you fail to consider the viewpoints and reasoning of other people how you want your views to be treated, you really don’t have the right to judge how another person EXPERIENCES FICTION.
Unless they have laid a hand on an ACTUAL REAL BREATHING child, family member, or abused a partner, you do not get to label them as if they have.
Incest, pedophilia, abuse, murder, etc, ARE all wrong… IN REAL LIFE. NO ONE is arguing that, no one EVER WAS arguing that, but fiction is where people get to explore what they want, without the restraints of real life limitations and even their own real life morals. UNDERSTAND THAT. THAT IS WHAT I AM DEFENDING.
Oh well I can actually help you out with that. I do very much recommend UPS (especially over FedEx since that’s just a sorry state of affairs over there).
It’s easy on the website too to get everything together, just go here and you should be able to do domestic shipment. If you have any questions about international shipping and the best route to take for that and getting your commercial invoices together, let me know (and I’m assuming what your shipping isn’t valued over $2500 so we don’t have to deal with an ITN number). We can talk about if you’re looking to schedule a pick up or take it to a UPS store too.
being in a fandom for more than a few years is kind of a surreal experience, honestly. you see fanart that you’ve sent in texts years ago, you see posts that you qualify now as ‘classics’ because of how old they are, you see people getting excited over new information that, honestly, you’ve known for a long while… you see one of those same-old same-old arguments bubbling up between people in the fandom and you just think to yourself “oh not again”, and then you lean back in your rocking chair, watching from the sidelines like your joints ache too much from all the battles of your past. a fuckin fandom grandparent. someone get me some applesauce
For those who want context surrounding the debate whether women should be allowed to continue reading or writing non-con erotica. Additional context is also provided regarding fandom harassment of abuse survivors who write or read non-con fiction.
An excellently written piece, if rather hard to swallow for the crowd which believes fannish expression that includes dark kinks / sexual fantasies should be constantly policed.
However, it should be noted that the expression ‘debate if women should be allowed to continue writing non-con erotica’ makes my hair stand on end and typifies what I can’t abide in this entire thing. I didn’t come into fandom to be allowed or disallowed to write something or other. I came into fandom do straight up do so, there was no concept in my mind of ever giving someone the power of disallowing me to write the thing. Fandom was never about control for me, it was about solace, about joy, about pleasure, about deconnecting temporarily from the drudgery of a difficult and often unpleasant life.
I already live my life, as a woman, under a constant stream of being told what I’m not ‘allowed’ to do. I’m not allowed to be too harsh, too sharp, too abrasive. I’m not allowed to say I’m childfree and mean it. I’m not allowed to get a buzzcut (I’ve straight-up had hair-dressers who refused me!) I’m not allowed to continue being interested in video-games at nearly thirty, whereas with my brother it’s ‘eh, boys mature much more slowly.’ I’m not allowed to criticize street-harassers and gropers without being insulted for it.
And now it’s ‘I’m not allowed to explore my darker fantasies in the safe, secure medium of writing, without potentially becoming a target for Purity Culture Wank.’ Fandom was my refuge from all the ‘not allowed’ nonsense and I’ll be damned if I ever let it become filled with it!
Not to be an old man but what happened to ship names that were just the characters’ names with a / or x between them? Like I shouldn’t need to solve some kind of Dungeon Riddle to know what characters are in the ship, you don’t need to say “I ship Candy In The Wind,” no one knows what that is, just say Charlie Bucket/Avatar Aang
tagged content searching happened and there was also some ancient discourse about how A/B meant A topped and that… was Homophobia™
You may not have noticed it, but any dash or slash in a tumblr tag makes it unsearchable, across tumblr and in your own blog, making said tag functionally useless for archiving. Still doesn’t explain the drop in AxB ship naming, but it’s one major reason why I’ve mostly used pun naming on this site since I always preffed / to x anyway. Also Dungeon Riddle Puns are just Gr8 and Wonderful so why NOT spend your day thinking up obscure, referential names?
But, this is the sort of question that practically DEMANDS thinly sourced grand anterior theorizing. I’d blame the Harry Potter fandom, and the fact that most folks on the internet right now spent at least some time in it at somepoint in their lives. The HP fandom certainly had / and x shipping names, but it particularly liked compound names(Drarry, ect) AND, more importantly, Nautical ship names(H.M.S. Pumpkin Pie, S.S. Loonie Lions, ect). I suspect that the popularity of Riddle Pun naming came from this pun-driven fad for nautical ship names in the HP fandom, mutated and accelerated by the Homestuck fandom which dropped the ship designation bit(”H.M.S.” and the like) and just used puns, since wordplay and reference were such big parts of HS itself.
i was thinking about the ghosts of fandoms past and i realised that my first proper fandom experience is by now completely wiped from the net thanks to age. i feel i have some responsibility here to document an extremely belated fandom wank so buckle up and let me sing you the song of south park fandom circa 1998-2001
okay lovelies, I’m going to offer some advice for surviving fandom (and maybe life in general). I’m too tired to engage in in-depth conversation, but here’s are some things that have helped me stay engaged in fandom for a long time.
If someone posts content that upsets you, unfollow and/or block them. Do some people get mad at being blockedor unfollowed? Yes, but that’s not your problem. If they want to throw a hissy fit because they lost a follower, let them. Your safety is important.
Tag stuff properly. Not everyone is at the same comfort level as you and you need to take that into consideration when posting things.
Don’t go in the main tags. I know this hard for some people, but honestly, maintaining a small group of trusted friends and never going in the tags has saved me so much frustration and grief. People put all kinds of stuff in the tags with no regard for other’s feelings. If you follow enough people, you’ll have no need to go into the tags to find content to reblog.
Before you follow someone, check their blog. If I’m thinking about following someone, I scroll through the first couple pages of their blog to see what kind of content they post and what their tagging system is like. If I see a lot of stuff I don’t like, I don’t follow them. You are not obligated to follow every single person in a fandom. Find people you feel safe with and stick by them.
Find people you can have private discussions with/ways to cope with negative feelings. There’s going to be a lot of times where you need to vent and get negativity off your chest. Sometimes someone will piss you off and you need to talk shit about them for a hot second. You’ll see something upsetting on your dash and you need support. If you’re ever feeling that way, reach out or engage in some self-care (this may involve getting off Tumblr for a while) When that happens, find someone you trust and say “Hey, can I talk privately for a second?” One thing I can say about this fandom in particular is there are a lot of good listeners, and a lot of people who are more than willing to help people who are upset, even about non-fandom things. Hell, if you can’t find anyone come talk to me. Bottling it all up or lashing out publicly doesn’t help anyone, especially you. Find what coping skills work best for you. But ultimately you need to find a healthy way to deal with your shit, because hurting people while you’re hurt does nothing but make things worse.
Blacklist things that upset you. Xkit is a wonderful thing and I wouldn’t be able to use Tumblr without it. If someone doesn’t tag a thing you need tagged, ask. I am always willing to tag things for people , no questions asked. If someone is an asshole and yells at you for your need to have things tagged, unfollow them They’re not worth your time.
Sometimes people are awful or do awful things and there’s nothing you can do about it. You can’t force people to act a certain way. You can talk to them and explain things, but ultimately it’s up to them to decide how to act. The only thing you can do is make peace with the situation and handle it the best way you can.
If you’re a privileged person and you see marginalized people having a discussion about their oppression, don’t be an asshole. I’ve had to deal with this a lot on Facebook thanks to the current political climate so let me share a few things: – Don’t explain an oppressed person’s oppression to them. They know about it better than you do. – If you feel defensive, try listening instead of lashing out. I’m straight and there have been lots of times when I’ve felt defensive while seeing LBGTQ people discuss their oppression. It’s natural to want to defend yourself, but that is not the time or place. That’s the time for you to listen and learn. Don’t do that “Not all [insert group]” nonsense. It’s fucking annoying – Don’t demand oppressed people educate you. Google is free. – Oppression is systematic and and cannot be fixed by a singular act done by a singular person. – People of color discussing racism is not racist. LGBTGQ people discussing homophobia and transphobia is not homophobic or transphobic. Disabled/mentally ill people discussing ablesim is not ableist. Marginalized people discussing their oppression is not harmful to you, the privileged person. – Don’t tell people how to feel about their oppression – If oppressed people discussing their oppression and marginalization really pisses you off, you should stay away from the conversation because you’re probably an asshole and no one needs your hot take about something you haven’t experienced
I can’t believe I have to say this but for the love of god DON’T TELL SOMEONE TO KILL THEMSELVES. I shouldn’t have to explain why that’s a fucked up thing to do. If you think death threats are a good way to deal with someone disagreeing with you, perhaps the internet isn’t the place for you.
Ya’ll, I love you and I want you to be happy and safe. Be kind to each other, respect people and their needs/comfort levels. There is literally no reason to be mean to anyone ever. After all, this is a fandom built around two dudes who do weird shit like bathe in ranch dressing and cereal (not at the same time but how hilarious would that be?) How could anyone watch that and then send anon hate?
Person B always referring to Person A by their surname out of politeness/professionalism. Both accept it as norm, until suddenly Person A is hurt, and unconscious. Frantic, Person B starts yelling for them to wake, slipping into whispering A’s first name in despair. Despite being barely able to speak or keep their eyes open, an overjoyed Person A whispers back “You finally called me by my first name….!!”
just moving along like everyone else 