probably gonna get slammed with anon hate for this but like…
much of the ableism towards Autistic people doesn’t happen “because we’re Autistic,” it happens because we’re weird.
now consider that… and now consider what some of the most common insults are here on tumblr.
weird, gross, embarrassing, cringeworthy… all insults based on that same idea of “you are different and we don’t like you.”
and now consider the constant mocking of “just trying to be special” and “Not Like Other Girls™” that is constantly seen on tumblr.
from early childhood, we are taught and conditioned to know that any deviation from the norm will be punished. for Autistic people, who make up a big portion of what is usually thought of as tumblr’s userbase, this conditioning is often increased tenfold by coercive “therapies” such as ABA and Social Thinking.
the fact that so much of tumblr’s culture is based on strict deviation from the norm– often citing “weird, embarrassing, cringeworthy, just trying to be special” as offenses– is regressive. and as an Autistic person, I would go so far as to say that it is at least somewhat rooted in ableism.
if you’re Autistic and you do this, especially if you’re a survivor of coercive behavioral and social treatments designed to make you “normal,” please think about why you take part in this treatment of others. I know you’ve been hurt, and overcoming internalized ableism is hard. I’m here to help.
if you’re allistic and you do this, please stop. just stop. we’ve already been through enough.
also yes, allistics can reblog this. please do, in fact.
This is absolutely true, and something I’ve been too unsure how to articulate, so thank you.
Yes, don’t mock other people’s special interests. But also don’t mock people who don’t seem to do anything but watch Minecraft youtubers, or talk to you for hours about, I don’t know, MLP or their favorite wrestler.
Yes, don’t mock people for sensory issues or for stimming. But also don’t mock the middle schooler who still sucks his thumb, or that kid who shrieks every time there’s a loud noise, or anything you haven’t necessarily diagnosed in your head as autistic.
It’s as simple as not mocking “weirdness” that isn’t harmful.
Don’t mock people for being autistic, yes, but don’t make it “it’s okay for them to be weird, as an exception, just because I know they’re autistic. This is acceptable because it’s autism.” Maybe, instead, question why it was ever unacceptably “cringey,” and why you needed to know.
Don’t make exceptions for us in “cringe culture”: create a culture in which (aside from any genuinely harmful difficulties/behaviors, I have some, that’s different) we’re not weird.
This is such an important post! I won’t judge anyone who doesn’t, but if you have room for it on your blog, please share; it would improve many of our lives materially.
lately i’ve started to think that cringe culture is largely perpetrated by people who’ve suffered from it, as a kind of retroactive self-defense. like, “this thing i was punished for is genuinely bad, right? i won’t be punished any more now that i stopped doing it? it’s not just that people are mean and could hurt me again any time?”
it’s yet another of the Just World Fallacy’s poisonous tendrils. people must deserve to get hurt, because otherwise you can’t stop it.
Tag: ableism
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“Ableist feminism is making reproductive rights activism all about birth control, abortion, and the right to *not* have children if you don’t want to, while writing off the fact that so many disabled people have to fight for the right to have kids, as if that’s not a reproductive rights issue, too.”
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“Ableist feminism is centering all their body positivity on “being healthy!!” when my body cannot be and will never be “"healthy”“ and i will always be ill.”
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“Ableist feminism is accusing people of being “bad/fake feminists” for not going to/participating in rallies, protests, and other events and ignoring how inaccessible these events can be.“
4. “Ableist feminism is criticizing people for not speaking up about misogyny and disregarding reasons why ND people may not be able to do so (such as lack of spoons, not being able to handle conflict/confrontation, difficulty with communication, etc).”
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“Ableist feminism is being outraged at the women who were sent to abusive asylums for being outspoken and such, because they “didn’t belong there,” while completely ignoring the institutional abuse of actual ND people.“
6. “Ableist feminism acts like autistic men are inherently more misogynistic than allistic men.”
7. “Ableist feminism is arguing that women’s concerns are valid because they’re not “crazy”
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“Ableist feminism is mocking people for “living in their parent’s basement”
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“Ableist feminism is no or poor accommodations for the disabled at feminist events.”
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“Ableist feminism is calling bigots ableist slurs.”
Let’s talk about ableism in mainstream feminism – submit your examples of ableist feminsim here.
just moving along like everyone else 