jumpingjacktrash:

i keep coming across fanfics where the characters try so very hard to hide their feelings for fear of rejection, they have to be tricked into admitting they care. of course, because it’s fiction, some convoluted plot forces them to confess, and they live happily ever after. but we all know, in the real world, telling someone you have Feelings for them is just as likely to make them bolt. these authors are writing from experience.

i understand that fear. i do. i lost count of how many guys sheepishly faded into the woodwork upon being told i liked them and wanted to date for realsies, not just hook up occasionally. it hurt. it made me feel like i wasn’t good enough, like they were ashamed to be seen with me, like i was unlovable.

but darlings, you deserve someone you can be honest with.

ask for what you want. if you don’t give them the chance to say no, there’s no chance anyone will say yes.