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“if somebody becomes panicked when you accuse them of lying theyre obviously not telling the truth” shut up ugly im a survivor who got punished for shit i never did all the time of fucking course im gonna panic when im blamed for something i didnt do

since this post is actually getting attention rn i really want to emphasize this-

many of the “tells” of lying are traits commonly found in abuse survivors and mentally ill/disabled people.

stuttering, averting eye contact, panicking, raising your volume, fidgeting, and other similar traits are actions performed commonly by these groups, especially in situations of heavy stress- such as being accused of doing something we didnt do, especially if we are afraid of being punished for doing nothing.

im honestly begging people to think critically when accusing somebody of lying for small traits like these.

Also I don’t know how common it is in autistic adults or if its just me but avoiding eye contact is supposed to be a tell. Or muttering or trailing off. But like??? I will personally just never look people in the eye. It makes me uncomfortable and there’s nothing about looking in a person’s eyes that really holds my attention. Like all this shit youre supposed to see in a person’s eyes I just don’t see. And I trail off and jump around in what I say and stutter and just my speech patterns are very sporadic and a lot of people will ask me if I’m lying if I change how I talk? But that’s really just me being strange. Don’t know if this happens to other people though

i experience this exact thing and its so frustrating when people say im lying because of it

There’s also a lot of cultures where it’s rude to look people in the eye. I’ve known a few students from Sudan that would avoid looking teachers in the eye and the teachers would always assume they were up to something and blame them on things they obviously had no part in. Just because someone avoids eye contact or anything else that seems rude or guilty to YOU doesn’t mean they are.

^^^^ this too!!

It’s also a CPTSD thing. If you were punished as a kid for “looking at people funny”, not appearing submissive enough, etc., submissively averting your eyes becomes a learned habit that’s hard to break. Especially when dealing with authority figures or otherwise under pressure.

As an undiagnosed dyslexic in school, I can attest that authority figures terrify me because it didn’t matter how much I tried to do what was asked of me, I always tripped up in some way. 

I scored perfectly on a text once, and was marked down 20% for poor handwriting. 

There was always a sword of Damocles hanging over my head just waiting to fall, and that mindset hasn’t changed today. Whenever dealing with authority figures I’m always waiting for that sword that I can’t see, to fall. 

When I pass a speed camera, I’d like to go 5 miles under the limit because what if the speedometer is wrong? It should be correct but experience has taught me that “should be” means shit. But going that slowly pisses drivers behind me off, so the balance I strike upsetting the police and upsetting other drivers is to do 2.5 miles under the speed limit. 

and those ‘lie tests’ never take into account that habitual liars are good at lying. you can learn how to sound sincere and convincing: you answer things in a calm, confident tone while looking straight at your questioner, or maybe you sound just a bit surprised, like you don’t know why you’re being questioned about such a silly thing. or you sound careless. or you sound interested in helping someone figure out the truth, and helpfully suggest that someone else should get in trouble. if you need more time to think up a lie, you just casually ask them to help you jog your memory. you can get questioners to help you craft your lie, and they’ll be even more convinced because they know the parts they contributed are true. there’s a ton of ways to get away with lying. 

people who freak out, stammer, avoid eyecontact, could be scared and guilty for a ton of reasons. but it’s almost definitely not because they’re liars. liars are smooth.