jumpingjacktrash:

jumpingjacktrash:

rorleuaisen:

cygnahime:

hellscabanaboy:

hellscabanaboy:

Honestly I just want to live in a big pack of my friends, it’s important to me and I’m just gonna keep trying to figure out some circumstances where I can do it

I feel like that’s basically reasonable but honestly please tell me if this is a thing I’m allowed to think or say or if it’s creepy or weird or utterly socially unacceptable bc I genuinely can’t tell anymore

This is 100% legit and an ideal I personally share.

Sorta living this. Got a few friends that are far away, but I have a little pack that is my community and I love it. 10/10, highly recommended.

northfield nakama is the best tribe i love you all ❤ ❤ ❤

btw, as for being ‘allowed’ to think, more than that, it’s kind of the natural human instinct to live in groups of about 10-30 instead of nuclear family units or large collectives.

don’t try to all live in one building. you’ll drive each other crazy. try to be geographically nearby each other but not on top of each other. the northfield nakama have their own apartments but seebs and i have a big old house that’s everyone’s hangout space.

also don’t try to share everything. i know idealists like to talk about how property is theft, but knowing what stuff you can rely on to be available to you is important to psychological security. from big stuff like covering each other’s rent shortfalls, to little stuff like whether it’s ok to just walk into each other’s kitchens and make a cup of coffee, be up front about what you’re ok with sharing.

consent isn’t just for the bedroom. some people feel loved and cared for if you check up on them frequently, and some people need lots of solitude; don’t assume. make sure you have consent to be in someone’s space. remember that you don’t owe anyone any particular instance of emotional labor, even though being a family involves giving lots of it in general – you can always say “no, i’m not up for that,” and you need to be willing to accept no when other people say it.

found family is real family, and humans are tribal animals. i hope you achieve your friendclan goal. ❤